not every coral kills others. Xenia, for example, is relatively harmless to other corals. Most agressive corals are hard corals. Corals are generally easy to detach with something flat and thin like a putty knife. This doesnt make the coral too happy, but it will be fine in a few days.
its always a good idea to google up whatever coral you have and check its agression tendencies. In general, hard corals have sweeper tenticles that can be several inches long and will come out at night and can sting neighbours. Most soft corals resort to chemical warfare, but good circulation can help minimize that. Still, several inches of separation is good as corals will inevitably spread out anyway.
Safety tip 1: Water + Electricty = ZAP