This is non fish related.
Today my vocal coach called me a derogatory name. We were teasing each other and whether she took offence to something I said or it was a slip of the tongue, I don't know. I was late for her lesson too by 15 minutes as there was disruptions on the buses, however this is the first time I've ever been late, usually I'm early. I don't feel what she called me is in any way justifiable. I actually cannot write the word here as it would be against the rules.
When she said it I kind of didn't believe I was hearing it. At the time I brushed it off but in reflection I feel quite uncomfortable. I've wondered if I miss heard her but I was shocked at the time and playing it back in my head I'm certain of what she said.
She's a retired musical theatre actress. I'm not exactly sure how old she is, at a guess I'd say late 60s or early 70s. I've been aware for a long time she isn't exactly a stable person. Her behaviour tells me that alone. We've had a bond from the start which she noticed, again this is another sign that she's not exactly normal. I seem to attract and also be drawn to anyone unstable. I have a habit of ending up in unhealthy relationships with these people.
So I'm now wondering how to address this and stop it going any further. Here's the options I've thought of so far:
1. Let it go this time but if she says it, or something similar, again tell her it's unacceptable.
2. Ring her tomorrow and ask her how she is and so on. Then gently bring it up without being defensive.
3. Wait until next week and chat with her in person about. Trouble is I'll probably forget.
4. Cancel all lessons and find a new coach. I don't really want to do this though.
I'm really rubbish in situations like this. Usually I try and justify the persons behaviour with excuses like, 'they're upset' or 'I deserve it.'